a retreat for guys age 13-16
June 12-14, 2023
FORGED is a 3 day/2 night outdoor adventure retreat for young men age 13-16. On this retreat participants will gain important outdoor skills such as plant identification, how to pitch a tent, and how to chop wood and start a proper campfire. Participants will be taught knife skills, how to start and operate a tractor, and will participate in an Orienteering event. Mass will be celebrated daily with the opportunity for Adoration.
Challenging and entertaining talks will center around the lessons learned from male role models, the need for authentic Catholic gentlemen in our society, and why showing respect to women is so important.
Space is limited
Your son will be given a knife, compass, and whistle and will be taught knife safety and skills.
Participants will receive a "packing list" upon registration
Sleeping bags and mats along with proper hiking boots are a must.
Tents if you have them (no larger than for 4 persons).
We will put no more than 2 guys in a tent. If you bring a friend you can choose who you will tent with.
With our unofficial motto taken from a John Wayne quote, "To be a gentleman, you first have to be a man" we look forward to a great retreat Forging boys into young men based on the virtues of Trust, Perseverance, and Courage.
Cost is $250/person, and includes a basic survival kit for each participant to keep.
Resources for Guys
For those of you who did not know, on the Feast of Corpus Christi last year (June 19, 2022), the Catholic Church in the United States kicked off a multi-year National Eucharistic Revival. Gentlemen, it is imperative that you know your faith, and nothing is more central to our faith than understanding the Real Presence of Christ in the Eucharist. To that end, we have included several resources for you to learn more about both this Revival and Christ's gift to us of Himself in the Eucharist! Enjoy!
Regarding the Revival
Check this out!
And, Yes, We Have Always Believed It
Just a Great Story!
From the Catechism
1374 The mode of Christ's presence under the Eucharistic species is unique. It raises the Eucharist above all the sacraments as "the perfection of the spiritual life and the end to which all the sacraments tend." In the most blessed sacrament of the Eucharist "the body and blood, together with the soul and divinity, of our Lord Jesus Christ and, therefore, the whole Christ is truly, really, and substantially contained." "This presence is called 'real' - by which is not intended to exclude the other types of presence as if they could not be 'real' too, but because it is presence in the fullest sense: that is to say, it is a substantial presence by which Christ, God and man, makes himself wholly and entirely present."
To Help You Grow in Your Faith
Brett & Kate McKay • March 10, 2008 • Last updated: September 25, 2021
The Virtuous Life: Silence
This is the second in a series of posts about living the virtuous life like Benjamin Franklin.
Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; Avoid trifling Conversation.
Clearly, Ben was not referring to monastic solitude when he presented silence as a virtue. Instead, he had in mind the ability of knowing the appropriate time and words to speak. A gentlemen has always been judged by his manner of speech, yet our modern age presents a host of difficulties in this area that Franklin never faced.
Whether because of selfishness or simple ignorance, many men are drowning as they attempt to navigate the waters of proper communication. Here are four areas in life where men can apply the virtue of silence and make the world a bit more enjoyable for everyone.
The Cell Phone: Applying the Virtue of Silence With Your Cell Phone
Much of our conversations now take place over the ever ubiquitous cell phone. Just as World War I was especially bloody because the technology in artillery had progressed faster than the development of new military tactics, so too cell phone usage is an unmannered minefield because cell phone etiquette has not kept pace with growth. But cell phone etiquette is an excellent way to show you are a well-mannered gent. Here are some rules to obey:
1. Don’t talk on your cell phone when you have a captive audience.
Remember in high school when you and your friends drove around yelling and laughing and blasting your music? You thought you were the coolest people to ever exist. Then when you reached your 20’s, you saw those same high schoolers and thought “what a bunch of jackasses.” Things always seem far more acceptable when you are the one doing it. This must be why people have loud and obnoxious conversations despite the fact that other people are trapped in proximity to them. Just remember when you are tempted to do this: you’ve seen that guy; don’t be that guy.
2. Don’t talk or answer your cell phone while talking to ANYONE in person.
Don’t answer your phone while holding a conversation with an actual human being. There are no exceptions to this rule. Think about it: if you were at a party conversing with a friend, and someone else walked up, would you immediately cut off the conversation with the first friend and abruptly turn your attention to the new person? Well maybe you would, but you’re probably a tool.
3. Don’t use your phone in any place in which people expect a certain atmosphere.
There are certain situations in which people expect a respectful quiet to prevail. A cell phone should not burst this bubble of ambiance. Thus, you should never use your cell phone at funerals, weddings, classes, church services, movies, plays, museums, etc. By even allowing your cell phone to ring, never mind speaking into it, you announce to the world that your conversation is more important that the ruminations of everyone else in the room. It is the height of arrogance. People will protest that their calls are very important. To which I say, what did people do in the 90’s?? For that matter, what did people do for almost the entirety of human existence? Somehow our ancestors kept on living. You will too.
It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt. ~ Mark Twain
The Internet: Applying the Virtue of Silence on the Internet
The beauty of the internet is that it allows free flowing communication in an unprecedented way. Yet this also means that communication on the internet is not subject to the same rules of etiquette that apply to public life. Extreme crassness and incivility plague forums and blogs. It’s as if there is a competition on who can come up with the most shocking and caustic thing to say. This severe form of incivility creates an environment of hostility that hinders productive dialogue and debate.
1. Never say something to a stranger on the internet that you would not say to a stranger in person.
The internet provides a cloak of anonymity behind which people feel free to say whatever they want. Yet the words which we both write and speak are our creations. We must take ownership for them. Never write something you would not be proud to have attached with your real name. Before you hit “Send” in an email or a blog comment, stop and ask yourself: “Would I use these words if this person was standing right in front of me?” If not, reword your communication. Just taking the time to think before you publish something on the web can help increase the amount of civility on the net.
2. Don’t attack people personally
Certainly here at AoM, and on the internet in general, you are free to disagree with the ideas of others. But do not personally attack the people behind those ideas. Many a blog user will make a valid comment only to end with “You’re an idiot!” And some will dispense with the valid argument part altogether. Using personal attacks adds nothing to the conversation and only shows that you do not have anything insightful or intelligent to offer.
3. Don’t just debunk things
Here on the internet postmodern deconstruction is alive and well. Many an internet user’s energy is devoted to poking holes in every idea that crosses their path. But cynicism is easy. Chronic debunkers don’t do any of the hard work it takes to create something, and then they barely lift a finger to tear things down. Digg users are notorious for this. There could be a post about a man saving a bus load of lavender smelling babies from a river and some digg user would find a way to make a snide, caustic comment about it. There’s nothing wrong with criticism, but be constructive with your criticism. If you have nothing substantive to add to the conversation, it is better to be silent.
4. Stop the excessive vulgarity
Nothing shows a juvenile mentality and a lack of class like excessive vulgarity. While salty language has been on the rise in normal conversation as well, the proliferation of profanity on the internet is excessive. Because of the information glut on the internet, men feel they must pepper their comments with over the top language to keep them from being lost in the shuffle. But if such additions are needed to get attention, you clearly did not have anything meaningful to say in the first place. Before you publish a comment with the F-bomb used as every other word, try to find another, more respectful way to say it.